
Ah, I was told by my senior today that my boss had
kindly informed her (i.e. lodged an official complaint) this morning that I was
defensive in a meeting yesterday ...
Hmm, I wasn't surprised really ... since I literally pointed my finger (well, you guys know that I gesture a lot right??) at another colleague and told him straight in his face (and in front of my boss) that the issue we are facing now is his problem, not mine. And guess what the colleague said?? The issue isn't his problem too ...
Errhh, then who's problem is it?? I just gave everyone a this-is-not-my-issue face.
In the end, my boss decided that I should be the one to resolve HIS problem (no
surprise), and the colleague is to help me if I cannot resolve it ... Please (insert roll eye) ... If he can resolve it, it wouldn't be an issue in the first time
lor. This is like the hundredth time that I was arrowed to clear people's shit
lor ...
Argh, I really need a strong armour!!
Telling
ppl in a slightly higher tone (
erh, cos I can get easily irritated by incompetent
ppl ...) that I have done my portion of work and this issue is not related to my scope = Defensive
Next time I should learn from another colleague ... When in the same situation, 1) Tell
ppl in a very loud voice (and for the whole level to hear) that this issue is not yours and suggest that XXX can help, 2) throw in an
occasional f**k word, and 3) most importantly, send a very nicely worded email (which is cc to all the bosses of course) to 'arrow' XXX to 'kindly assist' to resolve the issue ... Even though the colleague is the subject matter expert ...
This is recognised by my boss as
assertive.
Ah, I still have a lot of things to learn.